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...I didn't have the 'EQ' to either a) deal with the unpleasant feelings generated by 2 former friends' recountings of their spiritually-related plight/trauma, nor to b) rid myself of the extremely unpleasant feelings caused by my envy of the supportive 'Boston Marriage' they'd formed (not that they labled it as that, but that's what it was in retrospect).
Since there was nothing I could do about either situation, I could either continue to 'suffer' (ie, be co-dependant while also disturbing them in their life with my anger), or leave that all utterly behind as not meant to be a part of my life.
At one point they spoke of being sad about the 'loss' of the friendship.
No. All 3 of us lost little, if indeed anything.
We lost a short-term fantasy (of really, only a few month's duration) that didn't pan out.
And that's all, really.
Since there was nothing I could do about either situation, I could either continue to 'suffer' (ie, be co-dependant while also disturbing them in their life with my anger), or leave that all utterly behind as not meant to be a part of my life.
At one point they spoke of being sad about the 'loss' of the friendship.
No. All 3 of us lost little, if indeed anything.
We lost a short-term fantasy (of really, only a few month's duration) that didn't pan out.
And that's all, really.